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I’m in college and I’ve been renting a house off campus with one of my great friends, but we have been having some issues lately. The problem is her boyfriend has been practically living here! He refuses to help out around the house or clean up his mess. When I ask him to he gets defensive and acts like a total jerk! I hate this guy and don’t want him around, but I don’t know how to tell my roommate that. She clearly loves having him around and I don’t know what to do.
Save me Sophie!
Wowee! That guy does sound pretty obnoxious, but don’t worry! There are plenty of ways you can solve this. I think the best way is by talking to your roommate. You said you two were great friends, so she will hopefully care about you and your opinion. Remind her that you live there, too, and even help to pay rent. You could start by talking about the reasons you like living with her and slowly ease into talking about her boyfriend. If she completely rejects your feelings and you can’t stand to live with this guy, I suggest you get the owners of the house involved. You could ask them to start charging this guy for rent. Finally, if that doesn’t work, move out girl! There will be plenty of college students looking for a roommate and you deserve to live comfortably!
You’ll be okay!
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